I got into marriage coaching because my marriage needed help. Three years into marriage I was angry, bitter and judgmental, and that’s just what my wife could see on the surface! I did have one thing going for me: I knew that, if we were going to make it, both my wife and I would need to become like Jesus. Well, it was obvious to me that my wife didn’t care about becoming like Jesus, so I basically said: “Fine! If you don’t want to be like Jesus, then I’ll be like Jesus, and I’ll be better than you.” Yes… I decided to become like Jesus to spite my wife. I’m embarrassed.

The good news is that Jesus is full of mercy. It turned out that my wife really was trying to be like Jesus, and in giving up my expectations of my wife, and seeking to grow in Christ myself, I was doing the exact things I needed to do to have a great marriage.

I have a degree in ____ from ___ Seminary. I am passionate about taking what I’ve learned through my studies and through my own marriage to coach  couples and individuals. Since 2017, I have helped guide dozens of couples from a place of tension toward building a life-giving marriage. I have produced a number of free resources on a variety of marriage topics that you can find on my TikTok and YouTube channels, and I also host a Christian marriage podcast.

When I’m not helping couples build an awesome marriage, you can find me either lifting (powerlifting – not Crossfit, that’s way too much cardio), playing legacy board games with friends (Gloomhaven is still my favorite), getting ice cream with my wonderful and beautiful wife, or taking my boys to the park!

“I couldn’t talk to my husband for fear of being yelled at or criticized, especially about parenting our kids. I was afraid of his words all the time. I felt like our marriage was hopeless, but I didn’t believe in divorce, so I thought this would just be our life together. I wanted to feel heard, understood, known… to be happy, to be loved. It felt impossible.

Starting to meet with Nick gave both my husband and I the freedom to say what we felt and wanted without being interrupted or told we were wrong. Immediately I felt the relief that whatever happened during the week, someone would be there to help us. I felt empowered that someone believed in our marriage and that it could be really amazing. Nick talked a lot about being ‘for’ each other, and while we still have minor spats and issues, it is night and day a different relationship in which I truly feel like we are ‘for’ each other. If we’re for each other, we both win. I grew in the ability to give grace. My husband’s demeanor is markedly calmer and more patient. I can tell him what is honestly in my heart instead of feeling I have to hide it.

If you’re still on the fence about marriage coaching with Nick, throw the fence in the wood chipper! Seriously. Marriage coaching is the best decision we have ever made for our family as a whole. Nick is patient, compassionate, insightful, wise, and loves the Lord. Everything you want and desperately need in a marriage coach.”

“The first few years of marriage were hard… really hard. We spent days walking on eggshells around each other. Neither of us knew what would set each other off. We wanted peace and happiness together, but our marriage was so tense. I felt like a huge, HUGE FAILURE. I remember trying and trying and it seemed like everything I did made things worse. It seemed like my wife would never respect me or be happy with me. I felt really alone and really angry.

We started working with Nick and it was like we both could breathe for a second. Just having an unbiased mediator helped us both feel like we could finally be heard and not judged. Our first few meetings with Nick was like an Emergency Room Triage. He was able to give us some tools that helped us stop the bleeding and not be stuck in such negativity.

Eventually, my wife and I were able to look past the hurt, anger and fear that caused us problems, and get a new perspective on each other, but also on what actually mattered! Now, our marriage isn’t perfect, but we really enjoy each other.”